Non-Attachment

We humans have a tendency to become familiar with a situation or experience that evolves into preferences and creates expectations that the experience will remain familiar or unchanged into the future. We actually get very upset when our expectations are not met. We're disappointed, even angry when things don't go "our way". 

That's the definition of attachment. We take change as being bad or wrong, disruptive, challenging, unfair and much of the time, provoking. We develop a sense of entitlement about how things are supposed to be or happen or evolve that results in anger and resentment when things don't happen according to our preferences and expectations. 

Give some thought to those things you have expectations about. Observe your job or relationships. Perhaps you have a strong preference for being in control or you're attached to someone or something that's not good for you. Maybe you're attached to a skill or practice or it may be who you associate with or desire to be. 

Look and you'll find the people, things and ideas you're attached to are actually provoking your 3 poisons; hatred, arrogance, and greed. And, the three poisons are all generated by an attachment - to the end result. We're angry because we're disappointed. We're arrogant because we think we know better. We're greedy because, whatever it is, we want more; more time, more money, more space, etc.

It's all connected. 

You are connected to everything. 

Everything is connected to you. 

Observe your preferences. 

Challenge your expectations.

Determine to remain connected without attachment.

When you're successful, you'll experience the freedom of no longer being attached or needing to control nor will you feel resentment and frustration when things aren't "right". Instead, you'll experience a deep sense of wonder and interconnection that is only available when we are no longer attached to the outcome.